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Posted by swah 12/21/2025

I wish people were more public(borretti.me)
149 points | 121 commentspage 3
throw-12-16 12/22/2025|
No thanks.

I wish people kept to themselves more.

tsylba 12/23/2025||
> This is one of the best things about writing online: your future friends will seek you out.

Do I live in the same reality as the author? is that really a thing as in "it happens regularly enough to be mentioned as if it was"?

Apart from this I'm so-so about this, like I believe a lot of people from my generation I'm fond of the idea of the internet as it was in the 90s, like a decentralized cyberspace of free spirit thinkers, which slowly diluted itself as decades past and might have been at its peaks during the blog bubble and RSS feeds era (meeh it's arguable). But it seems like that spirit is long gone and we've been compartmentalized, our spaces enclosed like the British Luddites were before us. I'm all for the permacomputing self-hosting ring websites but it seems like a thing mostly done by the cool kids, the Artists, the few that tend to do it for the performative angle more than from their own tropism or the one from the culture (as it was done when it was natural to do so).

I'm not sure we could really go back to that era flavored internet culture without burning the centralized juggernauts to the ground.

bicepjai 12/22/2025||
I usually don’t like it when people use unnecessary big words. But sometimes a word comes by that explains exactly the idea. One of my favorites is Schadenfreude ( it’s funny and real at the same time). When I noticed the author used Solipsism, I definitely judged him for a moment, but after I read the explanation, it was a beautiful description of his stance :)

Solipsism is a philosophical position asserting that only one's own mind is certain to exist.

llmslave2 12/22/2025||
A lot of people are talking about the downsides and I get it - for me it's about authenticity. I think it's really lacking in today's world, and if you don't feel comfortable sharing on the internet (which is fair!) at least do it irl. We need more real human connection and people being themselves!
readthenotes1 12/22/2025||
" I say reading in private is solipsistic"

Only if you don't apply anything you learned publicly.

For example, I read " evil is suffering passed on" and was able to relay that quote to an entitled friend to help hen change hens perception of how hens impositions affected others.

metalman 12/23/2025||
Public is that which happens once, in real time,and most importantly derives it's content from spontainious colaberations of humans.Speaking and acting to the moment. Everything else, the all of all, is a spin off from this.
kgwxd 12/22/2025||
Clearly phrased to take advantage of the "controversial opinion" for clicks. "I wish people would publish more" is what they mean, but that's not interesting. Can one even "be public"?
tim333 12/22/2025||
I think an answer is maybe to have multiple identities on the web. Like I've got real name stuff on Facebook and Linkedin and some anonymous accounts too. You keep the real name stuff safe for work and your mum seeing.
hellouruguay 12/22/2025||
Until someone evil uses all that to investigate you or do something against you...
SXX 12/22/2025|
You dont even need anyone evil . Might be just dumb and misinformed by AI news slop that people of your kind are evil, dangerous, etc. Whoever you are.
zephen 12/22/2025|
> I read in private, build in private, learn in private. And the problem with that is self-doubt and arbitrariness.

Certainly if you do it in public, you don't have doubt yourself. Everyone else will do it for you.

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