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Posted by scapbi 1 day ago

Ask HN: My mother was scammed out of all her savings. What should I do?

Today is the worst day of my life. We live in a country near Cambodia, and as you know, it is kind of a dream land for scammers. Today, it happened to my family.

My mother received a call from a scammer. They told her she needed to process some tax issue and prove that her bank account had enough money. In just a few minutes, they tricked her and manipulated her into entering banking OTP codes. All of her savings are now gone.

What makes this more dramatic is that last year I architected and helped a government department in my country build a big system. This system can track money flows across the whole country, to know where money comes from. I was very proud of this. It is the biggest achievement of my life. Even if nobody knows I built it, that was fine.

But now I cannot protect my own mother. I cannot protect my family. My system can track the money, but it is almost impossible to get it back.

When I went to the police, just in one small area, there were more than 20 cases in a single day. A hardworking student sent all their family's money, thinking it was for university fees or going abroad. An old factory worker lost all her retirement savings. So many people lost everything. That is when I realized that the system I built, the system I was proud of, is not enough.

All my own savings are gone too. (My mother was scammed into borrowing a lot of money and sending it to the scammers, and now it is my responsibility.) I had plans for the next few years: to do open source work, to write books about math and programming, to create a dream Go web framework, to give back to the community. Now all of that is gone.

But this is not only about me. I can still start over. I am strong enough to rebuild my life. But who will protect people like my mother? Or a poor student? Or a factory worker? Or so many others?

I can build systems. I can build distributed systems that scale to a whole country. But for what? What should I do?

I have been reading Hacker News for 12 to 13 years, sometimes posting from other accounts. I am writing here now to ask for advice and help from this community.

If anyone has experience with similar cases, or ideas on what can realistically be done, or even advice on how to move forward after something like this, I would really appreciate it. I will keep this account semi-private, because with the details above, I think some engineers from my country may recognize me.

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freedomben 1 day ago|
Unfortunately I don't have any advice for recovering the money, as that's just so far outside of my knowledge field.

This may not help, but you have my utmost sympathy. An elderly lady that I know recently lost her husband and her only son, and got scammed out of much of her savings by people exploiting her horrible circumstances. She had to come out of retirement and go back to work because of it.

I think crimes like this are among the most evil you can commit to people. I really wish that law enforcement organizations would chase these down and prosecute as aggressively as they would if there had been a murder or something committed. They are fully capable of doing so when it's something that they care enough about, but they just don't seem to care about people like your mother and my friend. It breaks my heart and I really wish I could do something about it as well.

scapbi 1 day ago|
Thank you very much for your kind words. What I am thinking about most right now is, first, encouraging my mother and helping her through this difficult situation. Beyond my responsibility to my family, I also feel a responsibility related to the system I built. I want to connect with people who have much more knowledge than I do and see whether we can do something meaningful for third-world countries. That has always been my lifelong dream.
feydaykyn 1 day ago||
I am really sorry it happened to you, and wish you and your mother lots of resilience.

The following is very naive...

I have no experience in this, but since you're working in the banking system, you may know someone who knows someone etc ? It may go high enough that "something" happens, be it some help, or green light for a project to prevent scamming or anything really.

Where I live, banks have to control wire transfers, so for instance if someone wires money for "Brad Pit's kidney", the bank must prevent this. Actually it's a real case, and an undisclosed deal was made between the victim and the bank. Maybe there's something like this where you live?

nwellinghoff 1 day ago||
As your parents age you should convince them to transfer their assets into a trust where they still maintain control but withdraws etc can be optionally approved by a spouse or other family member. The trust has many other benefits but is especially good for fraud as it can disassociate the holders identity from the assets and have specific conditions for withdrawal. It also can provide a clean transfer of ownership in the event of a death etc. I am sorry this happened to you, it is becoming more common in the us too. And all of these “companies” seem to establish bank accounts and addresses in Delaware…
bhoult 23 hours ago||
A technical solution without the will or ability to enforce it will ultimately be unsatisfying. I remember an old group https://www.419eater.com/ (I guess it is still there). They basically "waste the scammers time". The scams rely on low effort ways to find the target, robocalls, emails, etc. But once the target is found they have to put real effort into implementation. With AI, this will only become easier on their end.

I would look into solutions that would make it harder for them. Like AI chatbots that act like targets, both text and voice. If the majority of their efforts end up being weeks of conversation with an AI before they figure it out then it will not be worth the effort.

Right now it may take them hours to find a viable target then days to extort them. Make it take longer, until it is more lucrative to get a legitimate job.

I used to think it was fun to mess with scammers... but I think these days many of them are forced into it. Basically they are lured in with reasonable sounding job offers then once they find themselves in another country with only their "employer" look out for them, they basically become slave labor.

You need to hurt the ones trapping the slaves that run the scams, and your weapon is the same as theirs... technology.

libertarian2 1 day ago||
It's interesting that in our digital age there are tens of thousands of text editors emerge every millisecond but hackers won't do any project that would help their own people to build robust communities and educational platforms, that would teach everyday (cyber)security and computer/tech skills.
kylecazar 1 day ago||
First off, I'm sorry. I went down this road with my godmother, $300k still unrecovered, despite lots of information documented.

How did the money actually leave her account once they had access? Was it wired?

Unfortunately the solution for you right now is to focus on rebuilding and acceptance. This is a massive problem, you aren't alone, and it's a reminder that there are shitty people in this world. There needs to be an alert and approval mechanism for outbound wires that older people can be strongly encouraged to set up. Sons and daughters can be notified if there's a massive outbound wire pending and intervene -- scammers are often posing as these people.

rationalist 1 day ago|
> FBI's IC3 and the FTC.

OP is not in the U.S.

kylecazar 1 day ago|||
Got so wrapped up in the story I forgot the first sentence of it. Thanks, removed that note.
thrownaway561 1 day ago|||
and they wouldn't be able to do anything anyways. That money is moved out of the country and has been laundered 100 fold by now.
vorpalhex 1 day ago||
I'm sorry this happened to you and your family.

1. Get police reports 2. Use the police report to start an issue with the bank 3. Work with a lawyer and escalate through the courts.

Do all of these things. Don't let the bank staff dissuade you from getting a lawyer involved now.

There is a second "thing to do" which is to regather yourself. You seem to feel, justly, as if your house was robbed. Take care of yourself as if that was true. Do a personal security audit if that is the sort of thing that makes you feel better. Journal, meditate, pray, etc as appropriate.

No defense is perfect and complete. That doesn't mean the defenders stop trying.

silexia 1 day ago||
Every country needs a digital firewall so outside scammers and scammers can't harass its citizens. This is the primary reason for borders in the first place: allow police to enforce a countries laws.
csomar 1 day ago||
There are only 3 countries neighboring Cambodia. It could help to mention the country as different countries have different guarantees.

The thing you can do right now is to try and get hold of someone in the bank that can freeze the flows, for the possibility of returning the money. Otherwise, not much can be done.

ch4s3 1 day ago|
It's always going to be near impossible to get money back out of Cambodia, which is the implication in the post. You can trivially figure out where the author of the post lives too, but I'm not sure there's much usable advice here.
scapbi 1 day ago||
It is almost impossible. Unlike in developed countries, where banks can offer some level of protection to customers, in third-world countries, banks mainly protect themselves. All responsibility is pushed onto users. Banks take no accountability, and the government protects the banks.

Let me give a concrete example. When money is transferred to scammer accounts, it is immediately distributed across hundreds of other accounts and moved out of the electronic system in under 30 seconds. At that point, everything is gone.

thrownaway561 1 day ago|
I hate to be the one that says it, but there is only one way to handle scammers like this. They need to be hunted down and put down. All of them and anyone who is involved.

Truth be told that scamming is becoming easier and easier. The problem is that most countries not only allow it, it is part of their GDP. Look at the number of scammers that originate in India. Everyone there knows who they are, there are numerous YouTube channels souly dedicated to exposing them and reporting them to the authorities, yet they still remain active.

Until a more brutal and direct response is used, these organizations and countries will continue to operate. If the attacks Trump has used on drug boats has taught us anything is that a direct response is the best response when dealing with the underworld.

coolThingsFirst 19 minutes ago||
This really should be way this problem is approached. There have been people who have committed suicide because their private data was leaked. It's an altogether serious matter.
scapbi 1 day ago|||
It is much easier than you might imagine. Hundreds of thousands of people live together almost like a city, scamming their own people, speaking the same language as their victims. They train day and night to manipulate the human mind, supported by an underlying system of fake accounts. When I was building the system against that, I felt like David facing Goliath. The problem goes far beyond what technical systems alone can solve.
vivzkestrel 1 day ago||
https://cybercrime.gov.in/ you can report cybercrimes here for india. The problem is the police is short staffed and their tech is also not on part with that of the scammers. The slow judiciary system due to staff shortage again makes this difficult
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