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Posted by publicdebates 2 days ago

Ask HN: How can we solve the loneliness epidemic?

Countless voiceless people sit alone every day and have no one to talk to, people of all ages, who don't feel that they can join any local groups. So they sit on social media all day when they're not at work or school. How can we solve this?
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throwaawaya7 1 day ago|
Get a puppy. A puppy will get you moving on walks, empathize, and make you smile.
thebigspacefuck 2 days ago||
For me, the answer was smoking. I made a ton of friends that way. Always went out to a pool hall, a bar, or a nice patio so I could smoke. It was great. You can’t smoke in your rental so you gotta get out and find places to smoke. Few states you can do it in anymore though. I moved to a state with a smoking ban and quit smoking, no point to it. Don’t get out as much nowadays.
SchemaLoad 2 days ago|
I watched this video that proposed that the way to quit phone addiction was to give your hands something else to fiddle with, proposing that in older societies, people spent massive amounts of time on mindless hand work like weaving baskets, knitting, sharpening spears, etc.
thebigspacefuck 13 hours ago||
My mom enjoys her knitting circle. It’s an older crowd of women though
scythe 2 days ago||
Step one might be to stop calling it the loneliness epidemic. Loneliness is an emotion, isolation is a condition, and we might even expect that if people felt lonely more often they would try harder to be social and actually be less isolated. This is also a network effect: my reaction to my loneliness affects someone else's loneliness if I go talk to them (or not).
aiiizzz 1 day ago||
Your problem statement is problematic.
jgoode 2 days ago||
To a first order, how can we decrease percentage of people that are single should be the question.
delis-thumbs-7e 1 day ago||
From wikipedia: ” An epidemic (from Greek ἐπί epi "upon or above" and δῆμος demos "people") is the rapid spread of disease to a large number of hosts in a given population within a short period of time.”

As with covid, individual actions are not enough to stop the spread of the epidemic. You need vaccinations, health education, public policy etc. not just individual actions, so ”go dancing” and ”talk to people” doesn’t quite cut it.

Seems strange to me that at this site from the whole internet people don’t seem to see the connection between the raise of new technologies and lonelines (with a host of other mental health/social issues). And therefore this is the one problem the nerds don’t seem to be able to solve…

I cannot either, but I think we need to start looking at technology from a point of view of public health. Some sort of sociology/medical studies on the effects of computing on human body/mind and society.

elric 1 day ago|
> Seems strange to me that at this site from the whole internet people don’t seem to see the connection between the raise of new technologies and lonelines (with a host of other mental health/social issues). And therefore this is the one problem the nerds don’t seem to be able to solve…

It doesn't seem that strange that a website with a few thousand geeks isn't able to solve a global phenomenon by commenting on an article.

HN is a place for discussion. It seems unreasonable to expect world changing outcomes.

I suspect the "think global, act local"-motto applies here. You can certainly make a local impact by "going dancing".

delis-thumbs-7e 1 day ago||
You missed my point. You cannot find a solution to a problem if you don’t first correctly analyse the problem. My criticism lies in the fact that most answers (not all however) analye the problem from an individualistic point of view, not from the systemic, ignoring the technological aspect. Which is a bit ironic one must say.
ravenstine 2 days ago||
We can encourage people to start families and stop telling them that it's the end of anything fun.
platevoltage 2 days ago||
You can't just start a family on your own. I don't know how this addresses loneliness.
jjuliano 2 days ago||
Why just join a local Kingdom Hall near you? People will genuinely love you there.
MrVandemar 1 day ago|
For clarification, "Kingdom Hall" is "Jehovah's Witnesses".

You know, the people who knock on your door and you pretend you're not home, because having a conversation with one of these people is about as fun as colonoscopy prep.

blairanderson 2 days ago||
We all need screen-time limits.

People cannot help themselves.

Its too easy and satisfying to sit on your phone.

silexia 13 hours ago|
Super easy... Just quit being selfish and fulfill the biological purpose of life every textbook describes: have a family. I have five kids and am the happiest and most content I've been in life.
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