I think this is fine? I’m pretty quiet in my real life but I do talk about here.

Obviously, someone has to create a nice big corp which would make us nice LLM friends and family members, yes, yes, yes!

Move to Latin America

Not with technology.

on the topic of platonic friendship, I couldn’t disagree more with a lot of the comments. I have plenty of friends yet I don’t do clubs and will never, ever do organized religion. People advising it are religious freaks in my opinion. Some of my best friends took this advice to go to church and bible study. They complain every time I see them about the people in their church. Meanwhile I’ve made more and better friends online. Its not hard, get on social media, find an influencer/streamer that matches your vibes and go jump into the official or adjacent discord community and play video games with people in that community. If you engage in active listening and are a decent person, you will easily make plenty of friends. Additionally, I think in person hangouts are kinda mid, but I hangout with my friends in-person (at a minimum) every other day when I weight lift. Like seriously, I often would rather chill in Discord than go and hang out in-person.

To me the male loneliness epidemic is more about a lack of ability to find meaningful romantic relationships. I’ve been thinking about this a lot, and as somebody who has been doing online dating since it essentially started, I am pretty sure that the problem (or at least a major piece) is that match group has commodified romantic relationships.

I know a lot of people will focus on meeting people in public or whatever, but it has been my experience that dating has become completely garbage and a large part is because all of the current popular dating apps disallow index search and funnel you into swiping. From a mate selection perspective this makes no sense. Not only does it muddy the waters about who is actually a real match, but it also does psychic damage to make so many shallow judgements.

Back before match group bought OkCupid, I used to have excellent results finding people their who shared a lot of common ground with, messaging them with a thoughtful message, and going on dates. Swiping is an absolute crap shoot, and often I feel like I am being used.

I like to hang around at my local skate park.

I'm not very good on a skateboard, better on a BMX. In any case the vibes are usually good.

Sometimes you think people aren't even noticing you, till you finally land the trick you're working on and a total stranger yells 'whoo!'

Since this is a tech forum, the best solutions I've seen to this problem seem to be arising on instagram due to its good location based advertising (it was originally meetup.com but they sacrificed their lead during grandstand on covid). Lots of run clubs, events, dances, and things to do get recommended in my feed all the time, and once you get into a scene people are usually recommending more things to do. There are sometimes community based apps as well which recommend local things to do. Ultimately though you need to go outside and meet people, you can't solve it by sitting in your house alone talking to internet people.

I think old-school chat rooms might be a solution to this.

stop inventing and endorsing divisive ideas