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Posted by onemoresoop 11 hours ago

My parents chose to die together and I was left to grieve alone(www.bbc.com)
37 points | 27 comments
sjdh76 9 hours ago|
I worked on health care admin tools for a bit, used in hospitals and nursing homes. I learnt there are lot of people super scared of death, even if they have been in and out of system for 20-30 years and barely functioning physically, they will still call the doc, go through 20 tests and ask for treatment options. And there are all kinds of opportunists and parasites within the healthcare system who will take advantage of it. One of the accountants would say its thanks to that crowd, the firm we worked at stayed afloat. I got out of there as quickly as I could. Humans are some weird ass creatures. Death is a feature. Not a bug.
nianzhibai 7 hours ago||
Profiting from anxiety and fear is a common phenomenon.
watwut 8 hours ago||
You got out of healthcare, because you realized people want to live?
expedition32 4 hours ago|||
At any cost? In my country we are open about what happens in nursing homes so old people fill out that euthanasia request. Death is a thousand times preferable to one day with Alzheimer's.
moi2388 2 hours ago||
To you perhaps. I want to live.
silverFork 59 minutes ago||
Nobody forcing anyone. Your wishes are your command.

But many people preemptively seek out a clean ending but many don't have the access when the time comes. Where I am from, many people who are terminal nowadays have big a family reunion or neighborhood party with dancing and all that jazz the day before the ending. Not that I have been to one but I heard about this stuff when visiting someone in hospital.

For many people dying in hospice is not what they look forward too. Dying as mother Theresa would like is not everyone.

1718627440 50 minutes ago||
> Nobody forcing anyone.

That's incredibly naive. People do not make choices in a vacuum.

silverFork 45 minutes ago||
Of course it is not in a vacuum. We are all product of some cultural views or apposition to it. You make assumptions about wishes of others. You can't make people live what you believe in. The choice has to be yours for your wishes and theirs for their wishes. Most people who practice this are terminal. Dementia is terminal.
1718627440 15 minutes ago||
Sorry I can't answer, since I do not understand you properly. What do you mean by "X is terminal"?
silverFork 3 minutes ago||
Alzheimer's has few stages and once it hits a certain stage it is defined ax terminal; they are no cures and no slowing it down after certain stage. There are few other dementia types that are vascular and they are also terminal.
saidnooneever 8 hours ago|||
its easy to say until the grimnreaper comes knocking. Sounds more like coping that rationalizing.
Borg3 7 hours ago||
Do you realise that you actually going to die? Sooner or later. The question is not about death, but quality of live. If you suffer because of illnes that cannot be treated and your life quality cannot be increased to acceptable levels, there is nothing wrong to choose death.

Most people are health enough they cant imagine how bad life can be if you suffer every damn day, and you are at mercy of others.

watwut 7 hours ago||
The original story is about someone getting out of healthcare, because they encountered chronically ill people who really really wanted to live.
mlry 3 hours ago||
No. It was about someone getting out of healthcare because there they encountered the scum of the earth who would scam and fraud and exploit dying people with this wish to live.
VSerge 8 hours ago||
This article discusses the dilemma faced by people with dementia and Alzheimer's. - decide while you are able to make this decision, but then it means it's very likely too early to die - wait until your cognitive abilities have declined to the point the more able version of you would have wanted to die, but by then you can't make that decision anymore

It seems like a mostly solved problem, in the Netherlands and Canada at least, where people can make advanced decisions that waive the need for a final agreement at the moment of euthanasia itself.

aitchnyu 1 hour ago||
Can you cite "mostly solved problem"? I read that this Dutch woman, in June 2024, were worried they cant consent when her dementia advanced.
ColinEberhardt 7 hours ago|||
It’s a terrible dilemma. But Dementia is such a slow, painful and undignified death - that has such an emotional toll on those around them, I wish other countries followed the Netherlands lead.

I know I would choose this path. Not just for myself, but for the good of those around me.

hostcontroller 7 hours ago||
I propose the opposite of a dead man’s switch – if you don’t press it, you die.
silverFork 9 hours ago||
You have consider that everybody is terminal and that they had a choice and that they didn't suffer. The best is to remember them for the good times now. Sorry for their loss.
abstractspoon 8 hours ago||
If I went this way I would want the period between injection and unconscious to be longer so that I could ponder my last moments and greet death head-on. In fact I would like there to be no unconscious period, just a slow period of dying and then 'pop' I'm gone. I literally want to experience my death.
cmrx64 8 hours ago|
You would appreciate reading Who Dies? An investigation into conscious living and conscious dying, if you have not already.
aaron695 9 hours ago||
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add-sub-mul-div 10 hours ago|
When my parents go the absolute last thing I'll be doing is letting the media make their deaths about me to advance their agenda.
bicepjai 2 hours ago||
Fundamental attribution error
ozyschmozy 9 hours ago||
What agenda is this advancing?
silverFork 50 minutes ago|||
Typically bible pushing religious people but not always so one can not be sure. I think the jest of that one is that one of the partners was in better health and wanted to follow the other one into after life. But you know 100s of years ago people would just walk into the river...
Rastonbury 7 hours ago|||
I don't think there's an agenda but the article title is semi clickbait, I knew 90% chance it was going to be about son accepting it and grieving but I clicked on the off chance it was more dramaric like "son disagreed" or "parents did it in secret" type deal
ido 6 hours ago||
The title probably comes from the editor (not even the reporter), rather than the son.